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Parent's Talk: Giving Advice To New Parents

As a parent-to-be I get people I know (and don't know) doling out advice, even when you don't ask for it.

Parenting is always a hot topic.

Everyone has an opinion on how to raise a child. People who have children and even people who don't are usually never short on advice.

It can be overwhelming and sometimes even entertaining. As a parent-to-be I don't mind getting advice, honestly. 

So far here's my top 10 favorite pieces of advice:

10. "Get your sleep now while you still can." (Good thing I'm pregnant and spending most of my free time sleeping anyway.)

9. "Make food for yourself before the baby comes. Cook and freeze meals before you have the baby." (Sound advice. I already know the first meal I'm having because I'm not supposed to eat it while pregnant.)

8. "It's OK to freak out from time to time." (What if it's more than occasional?) 

7. "Take a birthing or parenting class before the baby comes." (We're signed up and if my husband gets to wear the fake pregnancy belly the class fee will be so worth it.)

6. "Pick out a pediatrician now." (What is the best way of going about this? We will be doing it, but what is the best way to find the one right for you?)

5. "Do something fun, get away for while, go on a vacation now because you won't be leaving your house for at least three months after the baby is born." (In theory, this is a great idea, but when money is tight how do you afford a real good and relaxing vacation?)

4. "Don't worry about it you're eating for two." (I've learned this is not quite accurate. I indulge in cravings, but I've discovered that as baby gets bigger I don't always want to eat for two, at least not yet anyway.)

3. "Don't be afraid to ask for help." (This is good advice, but sometimes I'm stubborn and want to get things done on my own so I struggle with this one--sometimes.)

2. "You're never really ready. No matter what you do." (It's not reassuring, but seems to be true, don't you think?)

1. "Get used to feeling anxious and constantly worried for the rest of your life." (That seems to sum it up from what I've heard.) 

What do you think of this advice? What is the best advice you've been given or given out to new parents? How has it helped you? Let us know in the comment section below!

Nurturing Care October 18, 2012 at 06:17 PM
Here is a couple really good ones I wish I would of had before and after birth...READ every time you can to your child no matter what you are reading. Just read out loud! They are hearing you right now! Then, when baby is born get into Early Childhood Education in your district. They are just absorbing like a sponge and it give you time to stop and relax! Link to ECFE in Robbinsdale School District: http://rdale.org/modules/cms/pages.phtml?pageid=80935&&sessionid=95750dc8a23f3c0da66cbb4b0fc8ad0b
Stefanie Briggs October 18, 2012 at 08:07 PM
Thanks Nurturing Care! I love the reading idea. We have done that a little bit now and as I buy books I can't wait to read them. I am a big believer in early childhood education too.
Willow October 18, 2012 at 08:27 PM
I am smiling right now after reading this, as I jiggle my three-week-old, seventh child. I have lots to say but none of it would matter because each child, each parent, and each season of life is different. Just be flexable, relax, never say never, remind yourself that "this too shall pass" when baby is challanging, and enjoy your precious little one when he/she arrives. Congratulations!
Wendy Erlien October 18, 2012 at 08:54 PM
I second the ECFE idea! Great programs in a lot of school districts plus some parent bonding time.
Jeanine Woods October 19, 2012 at 12:18 PM
To find a pediatrician, I suggest asking your OB for recommendations. if you like him/her, I'm sure he/she will be able to recommend colleagues that you will like, also. Asking other parents is a good way to find a ped also. We love ours, South Lake Pediatrics. They have offices in Maple Grove, Minnetonka, and Chaska (and one other office, which I can't remember right now because I'm pregnant with our third.:) Other advice? That "pregnancy brain" that makes you forget even the tiniest things doesn't really go away. You will always have so much on your mind that you'll feel a bit scatterbrained at times. :)
Simon D October 19, 2012 at 02:47 PM
Whenever any family or friends has a new baby, I send them a copy of "Safe Baby Handling Tips" by David Sopp. Its a short, excellent guide for all new parents, grandparents, godparents, babysitters, or anyone that might come in contact with small children. Check it out, you'll be happy you did!
Michele Olson October 21, 2012 at 06:47 AM
I raised four and I totally agree with the tips above. And something I'm seeing now: 1. Children are not luggage. They can't be easily dragged around to where you want to go. Get over it. 2. Sleep is necessary for children, too. Don't ignore nap times. Don't ignore bed times. Depriving a child of sleep and then expecting him/her to behave well is nothing short of torture. Once you let go of your own expectations, it will be one of the greatest times of your life. Have fun!

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